Here we go again! If you’re following me over at LoveBrownSugar, you know that I officially announced this past weekend that I’m expecting my second baby. While I’m incredibly happy and excited about BabyBrownSugar 2, I’m also feeling so overwhelmed. I’ve got checklist upon checklist of baby items we need to secure, I have an aggressive set of business goals to accomplish before my due date, and all the while I’m prepping my FIRST little BabyBrownSugar for the arrival of her new sibling. Phew! I’m tired just talking about it.
Since making the announcement, I have been pretty transparent about how rough the last few months have been. On top of first trimester nausea, aches, pains and extreme fatigue I also hit a rough emotional patch dealing with first trimester depression. Honestly, I didn’t even know that was a “thing” until it happened to me. Most of us hear about post-partum depression which happens after the baby is born, but rarely do you hear about women experiencing those systems while baby is still in the womb. It took alot of reflection but eventually with the help of a therapist (and a little Google action) I diagnosed that my need to be cooped up in the house, lack of desire to socialize, crying and extreme sadness was in direct correlation to a condition called antepartum depression.
What took me by surprise is that it’s more common than you know. Between 14 -23% of pregnant women experience depression at some point during their pregnancy, according to a 2009 report in the journal Obstetrics & Gynecology. So although the symptoms were foreign to me, it’s not uncommon for women to go through this at some point in their pregnancy. In fact, when I made my announcement on social media this weekend, I received a ton of emails, DMs and comments from women who experienced the same anxieties that I did about their pregnancies but many of whom didn’t quite feel comfortable talking about it. Ladies, WHY aren’t we talking about this? So many of us go through it but I’ve found it’s such a “taboo” topic with very little resources and online discussions about it. Anyway, I’ve decided I’m going to do a series here on BabyBrownSugar to share some of my experiences, resources, coping techniques and hopefully provide an outlet for other moms going through it.
Despite the emotional ups and downs, I’m so honored that God has blessed me with the task of growing and raising another life. I can already tell BabyBrownSugar 2 is really going to change the game for our whole family. I can’t help but smile when I think about the day Cadence will get to hold her little sibling for the first time. Until then, I’m in Super Mommy prep mode. I’m focusing on better time management, finance management and organization skills. Every mommy needs those but it’s especially important when you’re going from one to two. Pray for me, y’all!
Any advice for this expecting momma? Currently in need of any and all words of encouragement! Feel free to leave them below.