Phew! I cannot believe how quickly time has FLOWN by. November is already on it’s way out and I feel like I just announced my pregnancy yesterday! This site officially was born in August (when I felt comfortable revealing that I was having a little bundle of joy) during my LoveBrownSugar.com 4 Year Anniversary party and the past 2.5 months have been such an incredible learning experience for me.
Let me say this. Making the decision to bring a child into this world is both one of the most challenging, nerve-wrecking but rewarding experiences you will have ever have in life. This entire experience has been teaching me so much about myself that I truly wouldn’t have discovered if it wasn’t for the treacherous but rewarding experience called pregnancy.
So here’s the lowdown on 4 lessons I’ve learned in my third trimester that I didn’t know before & the major changes I’m making in preparation for #babybrownsugar:
1. Selflessness is a Requirement, Not An Option.
(via @LoveBrownSugar on Instagram) I won’t be taking #selfies once my baby arrives.
Having a child is truly a selfless act. In essence, you are preparing yourself to give up your own wants, needs and/or desires for the betterment of this new being. It requires major sacrifices. This little person takes over your body and makes you do weird things you’ve never done before. I remember in my first trimester having vivid dreams about a stranger breaking into my home, which I believe subconsciously was about my fear of this little unknown thing controlling my life.
Now in my third trimester, I have such a huge awareness of everything I’ll need to sacrifice once my little princess gets here. My mom, who has posted on here before, constantly reminds me that motherhood is essentially a journey that never ends. She has 4 children and undoubtedly spends the majority of her life trying to make sure we’re all okay, all the time. Talk about a full time job?!
2. Nutrition is SO Important.
Image Source: Foodlve.com
Aside from giving up my pinot grigio wine nightcaps, sushi and a few other delicacies, I underestimated how important proper nutrition in pregnancy is beyond the “avoid” food list. You can’t just keep up your old diet of eating only when you’re hungry, downing sodas/coffees, and add in a prenatal pill to the mix for good measure. You have to take a LONG hard look at your diet and make sure you’re paying special attention to the nutritional intricacies that your baby will need most. It’s not about you anymore! Remember that. My little princess currently is only in the 5th percentile bracket in terms of her body weight at the moment and I believe it has to do with my lack of proper nutrition. Mend your ways for the sake of the baby. Consider it a job to give your baby all their nutrients before they get here.
3. Scheduling is Your BEST Friend.
If you weren’t used to living your life on a tight and regulated schedule before, get ready for things to change. My third trimester, what with the extra weight I’m carrying, my excessive nutritional needs and my need to take midday naps here and there, has definitely been a time when scheduling is much needed. Leaving things to chance is not really an option when you’re mere months from the birth of your bundle of joy. And you might as well get used to it! Once baby comes into the world, “schedule” and “routine” should become your middle name.
4. Positivity is Key To Survival (For You & Baby).
Upon my first ultrasound check-up at 20 weeks, I found out that I unfortunately had an unexplained shortening of my cervix which made me a prime candidate for pre-term labor. This meant I needed to go on bedrest immediately and that I would have to start taking medicine daily to help me keep from contracting (my doctor advised me to take Progesterone suppositories).
I was devastated. Until I started to realize, with the progression of my pregnancy, that it wasn’t so bad. I did, after all, need the extra rest provided by my bedrest orders. It gave me time to sit and think about all the preparations I needed to do for the baby.
AND it really made me look forward to my weekly milestones! When you’re constantly reminded that your baby could try to make an early entrance at any point, you become overjoyed by the challenge of surviving another week with baby in the womb. And it makes the pregnancy journey that much more rewarding.
Me at the hospital this past weekend
This past weekend I landed in the hospital with #babybrownsugar trying to make a dramatically early debut. I was sent to Labor & Delivery where they had to give me magnesium to stop my preterm labor contractions and they gave me steroid shots to help develop my baby’s lungs as I’m only 29 weeks and she’s less than 3 lbs. This was an incredibly scary time for me, but I know I didn’t go through it in vain.
My first trimester baby bump!
I’ve endured alot of trials with this pregnancy and I know it’s because some other woman, somewhere in cyber space, is reading this and will take solace in knowing that no matter the current situation – everything is going to be ok. Don’t be scared! I did alot of prayer, meditation and positive thinking while in the hospital this weekend and I have a new outlook on what this journey is all about. Hang in there! I am. And I have full confidence that my little princess will hold off until at least 34-35 weeks when her lungs are developed enough to support her little body. I can’t wait to meet her!
So there’s my third trimester update! I hope someone else found these tips helpful. Have any advice for someone like me? Please feel free to share your tips and personal stories in the comment section below!